Warren, Neil Clark 1934-

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WARREN, Neil Clark 1934-


Born September 18, 1934, in Des Moines, IA; son of Otis James (an auto dealer) and Rosa (a homemaker; maiden name, Clark) Warren; married Marylyn Mann (a Web site executive), March 22, 1959; children: Lorraine Elizabeth Warren Forgatch, Marylyn Luann Warren Sohlberg, Lindsay Rebecca Warren Vinnik. Ethnicity: "Caucasian." Education: Pepperdine University, B.A., 1956; Princeton Theological Seminary, M.Div., 1959; University of Chicago, Ph.D., 1967. Religion: Christian. Hobbies and other interests: Media appearances, his grandchildren.


Home—Pasadena, CA. Office—eharmony.com, 300 North Lake Ave., Suite 1111, Pasadena, CA 91101. Agent—Ann Spangler and Associates, 1420 Pontiac Rd. S.E., Grand Rapids, MI 49506.


University of Chicago, Chicago, IL, staff counselor, 1965-67, instructor, 1965-66; private practice of clinical psychology, Pasadena, CA, 1967-2000; eharmony.com, Pasadena, CA, cofounder and chair, 1999—. Fuller Theological Seminary, assistant professor, 1967-68, associate professor, 1968-74, dean of Graduate School of Psychology, 1975-82. Associated Psychological Services, founder and partner, 1971-95; Neil Clark Warren and Associates, chair, 1995-99.


American Psychological Association.


Make Anger Your Ally: Harnessing Our Most Baffling Emotion, Tyndale House (Wheaton, IL), 1983.

Finding the Love of Your Life, Tyndale House (Wheaton, IL), 1993.

Learning to Live with the Love of Your Life, and Loving It, Tyndale House (Wheaton, IL), 1995.

Finding Contentment, Thomas Nelson (Nashville, TN), 1997.

God Said It, Don't Sweat It: How to Keep Life's Petty Hassles from Overwhelming You, Thomas Nelson (Nashville, TN), 1998.

Catching the Rhythm of Love: Experience Your Way to a Spectacular Marriage, Thomas Nelson (Nashville, TN), 2000.

Date … or Soul Mate? How to Know if Someone Is Worth Pursuing in Two Dates or Less, Thomas Nelson (Nashville, TN), 2002.

Contributor to journals.


Why Men Fall in Love: Men Share the Secrets of What They Cherish Most in a Woman; What a Woman Wants: Every Man's Guide to Finding the Love He Needs; a study of several hundred married couples, "with an inventory designed to determine why some couples are successful and some are not."


Neil Clark Warren told CA: "I have been married to Marylyn Warren for more than forty years, and it has been a deeply satisfying marriage. But as best I can tell, our selection of one another was unusually lucky. We knew nothing about the important variables which must be matched if a marriage is to turn out well. When our three daughters were adolescents, I began to be concerned about their having to rely on the same kind of luck and chance from which Marylyn and I had benefitted.

"While my first book, Make Anger Your Ally, was designed to help me with my own internal struggle with the expression of strong emotion, my deep and abiding interest in the area of writing has related to marital relationships and mate selection in particular. I wrote Finding the Love of Your Life without knowing that my focus on single people would become paramount in my career. Since the publication of this work, I have spent most of my time researching and writing about what I consider to be the most important aspect of marriage—selecting a marriage partner.

"I typically research a subject for a long while before I finally saddle my brain and begin to write. My goal is to end up with a correct theoretical position with regard to any subject, a position that will endure over time, and I hesitate to begin the writing process until my clinical and research faculties assure me of a sense of 'correctness.' This strong feeling was especially important to me on the subject of anger management. I waited a long while to write that first book, but now that the book has been in print for over twenty years, I feel pleased that the position I took about the management of anger has survived through two decades of careful research.

"I chose to attend the University of Chicago and to study in the department of psychology because Carl Rogers was such a prominent voice at the time. While he had left by the time I arrived there, his ideas and his faculty colleagues were all still there. There is no doubt about the fact that I was enormously influenced by all of them. But over time, Albert Bandura at Stanford University has influenced me the most.

"Currently my goal is to develop a better and better matching model for the selection of marital partners and the building of long-term, sturdy, and rewarding marital relationships. We currently have some 300,000 persons registered on our eharmony.com site, but our objective is to have two million registrants by the end of 2003. We are dedicated to doing all we can to reduce the divorce rate in North America, and we are convinced that we can contribute most by discovering as many of the intricacies of marital matching as possible."