Want to spread the guilt on thick? Try offering forgiveness But researchers caution it may hurt your relationship with the transgressor

From: The Milwaukee Journal Sentinel | Date: August 16, 1998 | Copyright information

Want to send somebody on a lasting guilt trip?

Bring up their dastardly deed by offering forgiveness. Say it's not their fault. Assure them there's no need to make up for it. Make your point before they get a chance to reply. And it'll probably help if they don't quite believe you.

That's a good bet for producing long-lasting guilt, at least in people who think they deserve to feel guilty, new studies suggest. But there's a risk to this approach: It can damage your relatio...

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